Update: Can I Afford to be a Stay-at-Home-Mom?

Toddler twins washing dishes - Stay-at-home-mom update blog: Parentwise Canada

Being a stay-at-home mom means days filled with wonder and sometimes worry about the change in finances.

Back in August, I wrote about deciding to quit my long-time career to stay at home with our girls.

It was a nerve-wracking decision and not one that I or my husband took lightly.

We weighed out our options, changed our finances (which were outlined in the blog post, “Can I Afford to be a Stay-at-Home-Mom?”) and decided that staying home with our twins was the best fit for our family.

We’re now going on month seven of living with a family of four, plus our dog on a single income.  And I’m not going to lie, it hasn’t been easy.

Not only have we had to change our way of spending, but we’ve also had to change our way of thinking.

I mentioned before that we quickly had to realize that we couldn’t “keep up with the Joneses” – something we seem to have adjusted to just fine (we weren’t big spenders to begin with).  The hardest part was realizing that we wouldn’t have our familiar “cushion” anymore.  We would basically be living month-to-month and that’s a scary reality to face.

I try to stay optimistic and tell my husband not to worry.  But let’s face it…I’m a mom.  Worrying is what we do.

While some months are better than others; I was really scared for Christmas-time but thankfully, it all worked out just fine.

One way we’ve saved money, in terms of not throwing it down the drain so to speak, is with meal-planning.  It’s helped us buy exactly what we need in terms of food each week.  We have less waste and when I can price match and coupon that makes a big difference.

I’ve tried to help ease the burden off of my husband when it comes to bills, expenses, etc.  Watching our niece, along with my writing have helped supplement some of our lost income.  My most recent endeavour has turned my love of fitness into a career as well.  It’s still slowly starting up, but I’m hoping it will really help us out.

The whole point is to spend quality time with my girls.  Before I know it, they’ll be heading off to school and as much as I want to help bring in some income, the LAST thing I want to do is look back, have regrets and think, “I could’ve had more time with them, if only…”.

So, I guess it’s safe to say that I’m still settling into my new stay-at-home-mom shoes.  I’ll check back in again to let you know how I’m feeling.

Brianne Ducharme

I’m a busy mom of twins with a passion for sharing stories and information. This comes from my background as a local TV producer, where I’ve had the opportunity to share experiences with viewers for many years. Now I’m finding a way to couple my background with the hardest and most fulfilling job I’ve ever had…being a mother to my amazing identical twin daughters. I write my blogs as a way to share my experiences, but also hope that it provides a bit of help to those parents out there who might be going through something similar.

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